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  • You Hope….
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    You click the camera, and hope that nothing ever breaks their spell…not growing up, not shouldering the world in which they now dance so spritely

    you hope they will smile through their eyes all their lives long  and speak so freely with one another, and reach out their arms to bestow affection

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  • Why “Choosing Your Battles” May Not Be An Effective Parenting Strategy
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    Doubt can plague parents. Are you too strict?  Too permissive? Do you know which things are important to set limits on? Or do you just choose your battles and let the small stuff slide?  Where is the middle ground on limit setting that will help your child become the confident, respectful, and

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  • Respectful parenting lessons from my anxious dog
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    Parents sneer when people without children talk about dog ownership as if it’s a practice run for having children. Dogs are not babies. Otto, my miniature schnauzer, doesn’t wear Halloween costumes. He’s not my child. I’m not his mommy. And yet, I learned important

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  • Surprising Solutions to Sibling Rivalry: Revisiting the Night Time Routine
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    I have good kids, generally speaking. But as my youngest nears her third birthday, I have been noticing an, ehemmm, increase in sibling conflict. So we’ve started doing two new things to help our kids feel more connected and accepted. We added a boisterous game called “You’re Mine!” and

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  • Preschool: The Most Common Drop Off Disasters (and How to Avoid Them)
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    Preschool Drop Off can be hard.  Really hard. Most likely you have had at least one of the following traumatic events happen before even arriving at school: someone wouldn’t get dressed, someone had on the wrong color underwear, someone didn’t like what you made for breakfast, someone had

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  • Whining, stuttering and distraction – 3 changes that transformed how I communicate with my 2 year old.
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    Two weeks ago my daughter and I were really struggling. At 2.5 years old her primary mode of communicating with me was whining and yelling. And when she wasn’t whining and yelling, she would stutter, struggling against some invisible timer to get all her words out at once. She was frustrated

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  • Book Review: It’s OK Not to Share
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    Have you ever found yourself in a group of other parents, playing with your children, and peer pressure alone makes you direct your child to do something, or avoid something? And then you wonder whether that was really the best thing for your child, or if you’re just reacting to the presumed

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  • A Late Start to Respectful Parenting
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    Sometimes (often!) we discover new parenting strategies that resonate with us. Especially when we start respectful parenting later in our children’s lives, it’s easy to wonder if we’ve caused any issues or habits by doing things the old way. In the Facebook group <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/430048730397133/

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  • Preventing Power Struggles with Choices and Effective Limits
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    Have you ever tried to follow the experts’ recommendations to give your child choices, but it turned into a huge meltdown? Or tried to set a limit by giving two options, only to have your child insist on a third option?

    I recently had a conversation with a friend about her daughter, nearly three

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