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  • The Post-election Parenting Conversation
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    Like many children – my children woke wanting to know who had won. When I told them their eyes widened and their mouths dropped and the first question was the one I wasn’t sure how I would answer. I had shielded them from as much of this election as I could, but even a child can tell that

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  • One Simple Change That Helped My Child With Anxiety
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    It allows them to think of the best solution for themselves, not for the parent. ( I never would have thought of a schedule because - gag! Not my style!) But this is why it works and is honored by the child - it’s the solution that works for the child as their own person. It IS my son’s style and well, he’s not me. I could have easily imposed something that he “had to” stick to, but because this solution is an intrinsic thought, the follow through is pretty reliable and done with pride and self-awareness.
  • Why Connection Isn’t a Reward for Rude Behavior
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    At a time when many parents would sit a child in time out or send them to their room or punish them in some way – I included mine. I did not reward him as some may see it. I reconnected with him and I helped him. I invited him. I gave him quiet acceptance. Instead of replying that, yes, I needed space from him I said just the opposite - “I would love for you to join us. It is so peaceful up there. Let’s go.” And we did. And his mood changed, he relaxed and recovered and talked with us.
  • I Accept The Mess: What Setting Limits Looks Like
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    Crying, tantrums, whining, hitting, yelling – it’s all hard.  I’ve worked to accept all these feelings from my children, and yet, it’s still messy.   That’s the way it’s supposed to be – unpredictable, uncomfortable, inconvenient, and definitely messy. My 3 ½-year-old daughter is

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  • Connection and Disconnection: Parenting with Smartphones
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    Parents are commonly scolded for using smartphones with their children. While disconnected time with loved ones is vital, it is problematic to say that there is something harmful about ever using mobile devices in front of children. How should a respectful parent approach the issue?
  • Those Idealized Facebook Updates? Here’s the Real Scoop from Real Moms
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    You know those Facebook updates:

    The real scoop: it was 10am and my 4-year-old son still hadn’t eaten because “I’m not even hungry”, and he has been wearing the same clothes for three days. Cleaning up the playroom consists of getting a bunch of toys off the floor and

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  • Surprising Solutions to Sibling Rivalry: Revisiting the Night Time Routine
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    I have good kids, generally speaking. But as my youngest nears her third birthday, I have been noticing an, ehemmm, increase in sibling conflict. So we’ve started doing two new things to help our kids feel more connected and accepted. We added a boisterous game called “You’re Mine!” and

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  • When Siblings Fight…
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    It is easy to get caught up in the challenging moments.  The moments that make you want to pull your hair out and lock yourself in your room, but when you have a really awesome moment, well, that rocks your socks off.

    Today my kids were fighting over who got to go with Dad in his truck. It was

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