• How I Became an Instructor for a San Diego Parenting Class
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    Parenting is hard. When you don’t have tools in your toolbox it is almost impossible. So you fall back on what you know – what was done to you, after all, you turned out fine….right? It can’t be all that hard. Until IT IS. Until your kids won’t brush their teeth, do their homework

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  • Why Connection Isn’t a Reward for Rude Behavior
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    At a time when many parents would sit a child in time out or send them to their room or punish them in some way – I included mine. I did not reward him as some may see it. I reconnected with him and I helped him. I invited him. I gave him quiet acceptance. Instead of replying that, yes, I needed space from him I said just the opposite - “I would love for you to join us. It is so peaceful up there. Let’s go.” And we did. And his mood changed, he relaxed and recovered and talked with us.
  • One Surefire Way Your Kids Can Problem Solve (and Get Along!)
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    Children and conflict—it’s inevitable. As adults we often assume it is our job to solve these conflicts for them. However, what if that isn’t our job? What if the kids are capable? By solving their own problems they can become confident problem solvers that need less and less adult “help” to solve minor and, sometimes, not-so-minor problems. This approach works great with siblings, but I recently had the chance to try this out with a larger group of children and the result was just as cool
  • Why I Don’t Spank, Punish or Bribe My Kids
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    People are often surprised that I don’t spank my kids, even more so that I’ve never given a time-out or a punishment. I’ve never rewarded them with stickers or presents to get them to do what I want and yet, they still cooperate.  When this discussion comes up, people often ask why and I am

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  • How Silence Fosters Connection (And Gets You Out the Door Faster!)
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    In our house a lot of power is given to shoes.  All the transitional stress of leaving the house revolves around them. Sometimes they are too tight, sometimes they are too loose, sometimes the socks have lumps, sometimes they are itchy, and sometimes they just don’t feel right. Other times my son

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  • The Day I got Helicopter Parented (And How it Made Me Feel)
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    It had been about two weeks since I’d been out of the boot cast and I was cleared to exercise again. I was headed to spin class for the first time in I don’t know how long, but I was itching to exercise and do something that would really get me sweating and working.  I knew spinning was probably

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  • Be Careful
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    We tell them to be careful We tell them not to fall We don’t let them walk to school alone No playing outside with friends No games out in the street We sit them in the classroom Withhold recess when they’re bad No running on the playground No hugging

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  • Why My Kids Don’t Take Lessons
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    I have always been a believer in readiness in a sense that when children are ready – they will do it. Watching my own children has always confirmed this belief for me.  When they are physically, emotionally and cognitively ready – they will crawl, they will walk, they will talk, they will

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  • How Slowing Down Made Our Mornings Go Faster
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    I recently wrote about shifting my approach to our morning routine from objective oriented to people oriented. I was thinking too much about the things that needed to be done (Clothes on! Beds made! Breakfast! Lunches

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