• I Accept The Mess: What Setting Limits Looks Like
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    Crying, tantrums, whining, hitting, yelling – it’s all hard.  I’ve worked to accept all these feelings from my children, and yet, it’s still messy.   That’s the way it’s supposed to be – unpredictable, uncomfortable, inconvenient, and definitely messy. My 3 ½-year-old daughter is

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  • You Hope….
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    You click the camera, and hope that nothing ever breaks their spell…not growing up, not shouldering the world in which they now dance so spritely

    you hope they will smile through their eyes all their lives long  and speak so freely with one another, and reach out their arms to bestow affection

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  • Why “Choosing Your Battles” May Not Be An Effective Parenting Strategy
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    Doubt can plague parents. Are you too strict?  Too permissive? Do you know which things are important to set limits on? Or do you just choose your battles and let the small stuff slide?  Where is the middle ground on limit setting that will help your child become the confident, respectful, and

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  • Choosing a School: The Not So Obvious Questions You Need To Ask
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    Choosing a school can be difficult, and surviving a bad choice can be incredibly stressful.  So how can parents best navigate the school selection process?  Let’s face it, easily comparable statistics, like high average test scores, matter very little to a child’s

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  • Dear Public School: It’s Not Me, It’s You.
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    If I’m really honest with myself, I knew on the second day that this wasn’t going to work.

    I knew as soon as I heard the words “There is no running on the playground” that something was fundamentally wrong with this school system. I knew when I asked what could be done about the no running

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  • Respectful Routines: How (and Why) to Add Routine to Your Sleep-Time Toolkit
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    Like many respectful parents, I started out “baby-led.” That is, I did what my newborn son wanted to do, whenever he wanted to do it. This seemed like the most respectful—and healthiest—way to manage our time. After all, why should my son be on

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  • Public School: How I Made the Choice
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    A lot of people move to our neighborhood for the schools, so it may seem odd that I’ve spent the last months agonizing over where to send my son for kindergarten. Heck, even we moved here for the schools.  Then my first baby grew up a little, and I started learning more about parenting

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  • Respectful parenting lessons from my anxious dog
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    Parents sneer when people without children talk about dog ownership as if it’s a practice run for having children. Dogs are not babies. Otto, my miniature schnauzer, doesn’t wear Halloween costumes. He’s not my child. I’m not his mommy. And yet, I learned important

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  • School and The Unconventional Parent
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    I am an unconventional parent.  I have an unconventional child.  I’m not sure how that evolved, really—except that when I was failing him,

    which was often, I adapted.  I read, I researched, and I talked to experts.   I will always be learning how to parent my son. I will always be learning

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