It allows them to think of the best solution for themselves, not for the parent. ( I never would have thought of a schedule because - gag! Not my style!) But this is why it works and is honored by the child - it’s the solution that works for the child as their own person. It IS my son’s style and well, he’s not me. I could have easily imposed something that he “had to” stick to, but because this solution is an intrinsic thought, the follow through is pretty reliable and done with pride and self-awareness.
Children and conflict—it’s inevitable. As adults we often assume it is our job to solve these conflicts for them. However, what if that isn’t our job? What if the kids are capable? By solving their own problems they can become confident problem solvers that need less and less adult “help” to solve minor and, sometimes, not-so-minor problems. This approach works great with siblings, but I recently had the chance to try this out with a larger group of children and the result was just as cool