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  • One Surefire Way Your Kids Can Problem Solve (and Get Along!)
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    Children and conflict—it’s inevitable. As adults we often assume it is our job to solve these conflicts for them. However, what if that isn’t our job? What if the kids are capable? By solving their own problems they can become confident problem solvers that need less and less adult “help” to solve minor and, sometimes, not-so-minor problems. This approach works great with siblings, but I recently had the chance to try this out with a larger group of children and the result was just as cool
  • Why I Don’t Spank, Punish or Bribe My Kids
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    People are often surprised that I don’t spank my kids, even more so that I’ve never given a time-out or a punishment. I’ve never rewarded them with stickers or presents to get them to do what I want and yet, they still cooperate.  When this discussion comes up, people often ask why and I am

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  • The Gift of Silence and How it Solved our Shoe Problems
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    In our house a lot of power is given to shoes.  All the transitional stress of leaving the house revolves around them. Sometimes they are too tight, sometimes they are too loose, sometimes the socks have lumps, sometimes they are itchy, and sometimes they just don’t feel right. Other times my son

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  • The Day I got Helicopter Parented (And How it Made Me Feel)
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    It had been about two weeks since I’d been out of the boot cast and I was cleared to exercise again. I was headed to spin class for the first time in I don’t know how long, but I was itching to exercise and do something that would really get me sweating and working.  I knew spinning was probably

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  • Be Careful
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    We tell them to be careful We tell them not to fall We don’t let them walk to school alone No playing outside with friends No games out in the street We sit them in the classroom Withhold recess when they’re bad No running on the playground No hugging

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  • Why My Kids Don’t Take Lessons
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    I have always been a believer in readiness in a sense that when children are ready – they will do it. Watching my own children has always confirmed this belief for me.  When they are physically, emotionally and cognitively ready – they will crawl, they will walk, they will talk, they will

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  • How Slowing Down Made Our Mornings Go Faster
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    I recently wrote about shifting my approach to our morning routine from objective oriented to people oriented. I was thinking too much about the things that needed to be done (Clothes on! Beds made! Breakfast! Lunches

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  • How Recognizing Limits Can Save Your Day
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    Sometimes, as a mother, I get so focused on things that need to get done that I forget the most important goal—my kids and their well being. Beds need to be made, clothes changed, shoes on, breakfast eaten, teeth brushed, lunches made. In all the hustle and bustle of a busy morning, it can

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  • I Accept The Mess: What Setting Limits Looks Like
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    Crying, tantrums, whining, hitting, yelling – it’s all hard.  I’ve worked to accept all these feelings from my children, and yet, it’s still messy.   That’s the way it’s supposed to be – unpredictable, uncomfortable, inconvenient, and definitely messy. My 3 ½-year-old daughter is

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